Valentine’s Day is fun, but this week AMSFTV is celebrating self-love: We’re indulging all our whims, desires, and worst impulses. Join us for five days of ME ME ME ME ME.
If you haven’t heard, people are pretty excited about
Fifty Shades of Grey, especially since it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow. But when it comes to getting it on in real life, Red Room–inspired antics mostly seem giggle-inducing. In the spirit of better (and more realistic) sex, AMSFTV consulted two experts: Betony Vernon, author of The Boudoir Bible, and Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex.
From vibrators so discreet that they double as jewelry to tech-friendly mobile-controlled toys (not to mention taking advantage of basics at the hardware store …), here are their picks. Whether you consider yourself a toy newbie or an expert, click through to see their accessories of choice for a fun night in.
Seamed Stockings “I have a fetish for seamed stockings. You have to wear a garter — it cages and beautifully defines the center of the body. It’s being dressed to undress.” —Betony Vernon
Hello Touch Vibrator “The battery pack slips over your wrist like a bracelet, so you can wear the pads on your fingers. They’ll add vibration to any body part you’re touching: Use it for an erotic massage, hand job, or solo session. And if you prefer flesh-on-flesh contact, slip them farther down your finger so that they still vibrate, though
YES Organic Lube “I love YES because it’s organic and you don’t have to worry about ingesting it, which can be inevitable when you’re using lube. It’s effective and flavorless. I’m not a fan of scented lube — the body itself smells and tastes great and we shouldn’t be perpetuating that taboo.” —B.V.
BlueMotion Remote Vibrator “This vibrator lets you use your phone as the control mechanism. You can use the preset vibration patterns or make your own by touching the screen. Or, if you want, you can convert your voice or favorite song into a vibration.” —C.C.
Share Double Dildo “This toy is designed for women — you’re being penetrated while penetrating another. You feel really connected to your partner.” —B.V.
We-Vibe Couples Vibrator “The We-Vibe is our most popular vibrator with couples. It can be worn during sex, and it hugs both the clit and G-spot during penetration. Now it can be operated with a smartphone app, so you can connect with your partner while you’re in different cities.” —C.C.
Choker Cuffs “Silky ties and scarves are not good for bondage: The knots will slip and be difficult to untie. If you don’t have time to study the dance of the cords, I suggest leather cuffs that are easily removed. Using cords safely requires experience, while cuffs are a good way for bondage novices to explore
Egg Masturbation Sleeves “These are men’s masturbation sleeves cleverly disguised as eggs. Pinch the tip (much like you would when applying a condom) and add a squeeze of lube. It comes in six styles to provide unique combinations of ridges and textures.” —C.C.
Vesper Pendant Vibrator “For those who want a statement accessory that doubles as a vibrator, this one is an elegant gold column that you can wear out. It has a discreet button and measures three inches long.” —C.C.
Fleet Ilya Corset Harness “This is one of my favorite pieces. You can wear it under or over clothing; it pushes up your chest for a beautiful silhouette. It allows for different options with [restraint] cords, but alone it’s still a great introduction to the powers of constriction. You’re very aware of your breath. It has the power to instigate some
Duet Luxe Vibe “The metal legs are covered with velvety silicone, and like the tuning fork it resembles, the ends quiver and resonate with the vibration. It hugs the clitoris, surrounds a nipple, or can be used during a blow job for added sensation.” —C.C.
Elise Rechargeable Vibrator “Lelo makes fantastic vibrators that don’t require batteries — you plug them in to recharge. They really studied the functionality and created all these different settings. My favorite is the wavelike one that reminds me of the motion of the tongue.” —B.V.
Mio Vibrating Cock Ring “This vibrating ring fits over the penis or dildo and provides stimulation to both partners. With multiple settings, you can customize it to the intensity level that matches your mood.” —C.C.
“I designed this marble sculpture-cum-chair for the ‘KAMA: Sex and Design’ exhibition at the Milan Triennale. It is currently exhibited at MUDAC in Lausanne, Switzerland. The Origin Chair, made in an edition of six, is a self-penetrating celebration of the sexual union.
Old-Fashioned Rope “Working with rope is meditation — I made this whip with 60 feet of cotton rope that I purchased at the hardware store. I’m a big fan of hardware stores: They offer lots of options, not only for rope but for hardware, like carabiners and swivels. Make sure to purchase these devices in accordance with the weight